The friendship conflicts are associated with the
emergence of hostile feelings between people who feel victimized by another person.
This kind of conflict will damage the moral and relationship between them. One
thing that can be done by humans to solve this problem is by forgiving. Forgiveness is not an
easy thing to do, considering that the offended individual may have different
reactions. This concept of forgiveness will be not only concerning on what
happens in the heart, but also having a willingness to restart usual
interaction and behavior. This study used a phenomenological approach which was
aimed to identify the meaning and the process of forgiving. The result of
investigating 3 subjects carried out three important things that must exist in
the process of forgiving, i.e. basic personal values, understanding of
offenders, and positive efforts. Basic personal values will be individual
characteristics in solving conflicts regarding on the values of kindness, love,
and humanity. Understanding of offender will increase our empathy toward the
feelings of others. Meanwhile, the positive effort will be our main step that
forgiving is not only saying sorry, but also having sincerity in the heart
which is then shown with a willingness to reinitiate and interact with the
person.
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Publication Date : December 27, 2017 |
EndNote | %0 International E-Journal of Advances in Social Sciences FORGIVING IS NOT ONLY FORGETTING (PHEOMENOLOGICAL STUDY ON FORGIVENESS IN INDIVIDUAL WHO EXPERIENCES A FRIENDSHIP CONFLICT) %A Zulmi Ramdani %T FORGIVING IS NOT ONLY FORGETTING (PHEOMENOLOGICAL STUDY ON FORGIVENESS IN INDIVIDUAL WHO EXPERIENCES A FRIENDSHIP CONFLICT) %D 2017 %J IJASOS- International E-journal of Advances in Social Sciences %P 2411-183X-2411-183X %V 3 %N 9 %R doi: 10.18769/ijasos.366853 %U 10.18769/ijasos.366853 |